It’s hard to believe it’s been close to a year since I last wrote anything. I made it a little over four months in my new job, but the fallout lasted a lot longer. I asked to be put back into my previous title. They did it. Now it still haunts me. I worry those […]
The last few weeks have been full of activity both at work, personally and the world in general. I’ve been pretty maxed out on inputs for quite some time. I’ve struggled to find time for much of anything other than work and dealing with the onslaught of inputs that seem to be coming at me from all […]
October is always an extremely busy month for us. We have three close family members with birthdays which means a lot of celebrations requiring preparations, the actual celebration and sometimes clean-up afterward (depending on what was planned). It can be really easy to get caught up in the stress of all of it and forget how […]
I recommend checking out the book “Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance” by Rosie Molinary. One of the many exercises recommended by the author is naming & getting control of your inner critic – something many of us could work on for a happier, more content life! Who’s your inner critic?
Introversion is often mis-characterized as shy or even standoffish. Yet, if you truly understand the meaning of introvert (and yes, if you search google for this, you’ll see it defined as shy in the search results), it is defined by someone’s source of personal energy. I find people, especially in large groups, to be exhausting. New people (ones I don’t know very well) are also exhausting because they take more energy to deal with. It’s not that I dislike people entirely, they just take energy rather than adding to it. I need time on my own to reflect and get things done in order to recharge. This is why I love holidays like Labor Day. It’s one of those where we generally don’t have commitments so we can just enjoy a nice, quiet day at home where we can both relax, reflect, and get ready for the week.
I don’t have words of wisdom this week. Just an open & honest admission that as much as I like to think I’ve got it together, I don’t always. It’s been an emotional couple weeks. There has been some really exciting thing happening, and some really kinda scary thing happening. With that, comes quite a […]
With all of the news focus on increasing animosity, hate and hostility and the ongoing focus on how we’re all so different and can’t get along rather than any focus on everyone’s similarities (we are all people after-all) , it’s really easy to get down in the dumps, depressed and feel anxious. One of the things I find myself going back to in order to get my spirits back up is an exercise I learned when I was struggling with depression: focusing on being grateful.
Looking back at a young, naive self, I wish I could have imparted some wisdom. When I got my first apartment & needed kitchen “things” and a couple years later when I got married & we registered for “kitchen crap” (as my husband likes to call it), there are things I never would have registered for or purchased. Over time, I realized that I felt a significant amount of frustration & impatience I would feel when it came to tedium in the kitchen. After owning & using certain items, I slowly started to hate them. And then I started making a list of all the things I hate about “kitchen crap” and I decided I wanted to essentially push the easy button on my kitchen. Over time, I’ve been either getting rid of things completely (donating), replacing, and (in rare cases) adding some pretty cool stuff to my kitchen that legitimately makes my life easier.
Change is difficult enough. Trying to make a new good habit or break and hold bad habit. It just throws your whole day, week, or even months for a loop until that change becomes your new normal. And then you add in the people around you. In theory, if you’re making a personal change it should have no bearing on other people. It’s not like you’re making them change too. But it’s never quite that simple is it? And there’s always a lot of fear that comes with change because of the potential for icky, messy, roadblocks that affect your relationships.
There was a period of time where I just didn’t bother to plan my week. It just seemed so overwhelming and no matter what happened, there would always be multiple days where things completely threw my plan for a loop. I would then end up so wrapped up in the fact that I wasn’t perfect that I’d be more or less an emotional mess. Then I read an article about how successful people offer themselves forgiveness. And I took a slightly different approach to planning my week.